I think kids and teens have more power in suggestion than we know. For instance, if we tell a parent or parental figure we’re going to do something, we usually will get a flat out no. However, if we suggest or ask for something like, say, going to a friend’s house on a school night, we still might get a no, but at least you have a chance of a yes because you asked.
If we ask really nicely to go somewhere, they might even give us a longer time than we expected reducing our need to call them and ask for an extension.
Seriously, I think teens and kids get away with more than we know. Though younger kids less than teens because teens have a tendency to sneak out when they really want to go somewhere and get that flat out no. This may result in a night of fun, but what of the consequences we ensure by doing that?
The worry of a parent staying up all night by the phone can quickly turn to anger and a grounding sentence.
For all the sneaking some teens do, most of it isn’t needed. The thrill of sneaking out and getting back without getting caught is enticing, though. It brings with it complications like getting caught or being outside walking for hours in the cold. If we ask the parents in a reasonable way on a reasonable night most say yes. Unless they’re a control freak and don’t let us go anywhere.
Really, when is sneaking out even necessary? By the time we get outside we’ve made enough noise to wake up the whole neighborhood and they know we are gone.
Or you brag about it within hearing distance of the parent which you will learn to do only do once, unless we are really dense. Then you deserve to be caught and really horribly punished.
I’ve only been caught for something once when my little brother Nick and I held a party at our house. Very stupid thing to do, I know, but it sounded really good at the time because our parents were out of town (or so we thought.) Not even five hours into the party (which was a bunch of friends hanging out with a bit of vodka), Our stepdad Darrell walked through the door.
I will pause here to give you time to laugh at our stupidity. We were caught red-handed with an empty bottle on the table.
The next day we had to clean up the house, do the dishes and take out the trash. We prepared our wills. Our parents walked in and said for us to sit down. After a 30-minute talk we got off with a warning not to do it again. Let’s just say there hasn’t been a party at my house since.
Anyway, I think most of the time we shouldn’t sneak out or do things our parents ask us not to do or tell you not to do because it’s really more trouble than its worth. The grounding afterwards really sucks something bad.
That is why I say we do get away with more than we know, because if I can get away with what I did, I would hate to see what nice parents let their kids get away with. Mine are cool and they are more strict than I portrayed them. It also made me and my brother better people than most. It did complicate things a bit, but I’ve found ways to deal with it as I bet others with strict parents have found ways to deal with their rules (hopefully, preferably in non-violent ways.)
Dusty Swain is a senior at Skyview High School.
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