Friends are a gift, but you need to choose them wisely


Posted: Wednesday, November 29, 2006

Do you always follow your parent’s advice? Do you even go to your parents for advice? I’d have to say a no to both of those.

Personally, I’m more inclined to go to friends — it seems many teens agree with my opinion. Friends seem to play a huge part in the life of a teenager; they’re your support group, your protectors, and often times, your jury. From my experience, a true friend is the best thing that you can ever have. Sadly, a good friend is one of the hardest things to find.

Webster’s New World Children’s Dictionary defines friendship as “One who helps or supports.” In my experience I have found this to be true countless times. Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times.” Wouldn’t that make you feel thankful for the true friends you have?

At one point in my life, my best friend and I had a disagreement and we apologized — but we didn’t really apologize. It was one of those things where you are forced to by adults. Yeah, I know you remember having to do that. This teacher even made us hug.

But, my friend and I didn’t really talk much for the next two years. I don’t even remember what the argument was about. That, to me, is the saddest thing in the entire world. We were inseparable and because of some stupid disagreement, we held a grudge for that long. Believe me, for 12-year-olds, it seemed a lot longer than that.

What I learned from that experience I found in Proverbs 18:24: “A man who has friends must show himself friendly, but there is a friend that is closer than a brother.” I took that to mean that in order to have a friend you have to be friend, and if you do that you’ll have a friend who is even closer than family — a true friend.

Have you ever noticed how when you get a new friend you slowly pick up some of their traits? I never even notice that I’m doing it, like a phrase that someone says all the time I’ll start using it every once in a while. It can sometimes even be their style, or the way they act.

But that’s why you need to make sure you choose friends wisely, because you can pick up their traits without even noticing it. Sure you may not believe me now, but just take a serious look at your friends and yourself, and compare the two, you maybe surprised.

I think it’s great that teens can have friends, and it’s great they rank so high in our lives. Although, I have to remember that a friend’s opinions aren’t always more valuable than adult’s and adult’s opinions aren’t always as good as my friend’s sometimes.

That’s when you have to make the decision for yourself and be your own best friend.

Melissa Newton is a sophomore at Wings Christian Academy.

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